hahaha,udah lama ni blog ga gw pake... daripada nganggur mending gw pake buat nyimpen tugas...
narcissistic personality disorder
Definition
An individual with narcissistic personality disorder exhibits extreme self-importance, inability to empathize with others and heightened sensitivity to criticism. Self-involvement and lack of empathy characterize this personality disorder.
People with narcissistic personality disorder are frequently perfectionists and need to be the center of attention, receiving affection and admiration, and controlling the situation. To get the attention he craves, he may try to create crises that return the focus to him. Like patients with antisocial personality disorder, this person places entitlement issues at the fore. He feels that the world owes him, regardless of whether he makes a contribution.
Alcohol and other drugs (AOD) can induce states that mimic a personality disorder, but if an AOD-using person with a personality disorder abstains, only the symptoms of the personality disorder will still be evident. AOD use may trigger or aggravate a personality disorder. The course and severity of personality disorders can also be made worse if other psychiatric problems, such as mood, anxiety and psychotic disorders are present.
A patient with a personality disorder frequently uses AODs to relieve her symptoms: to raise self-esteem, decrease feelings of guilt and amplify feelings of diminished individuality.
Narcissistic personality disorder often leads to use of drugs, particularly stimulants. As a disinhibitor, alcohol may help lower anxiety and alleviate depression. A shy person with narcissistic personality disorder may depend on marijuana to relieve her social anxiety, while others use steroids to boost confidence in physical perfection. Without AODs, a person with narcissistic personality disorder may believe that others are overly critical or do not adequately appreciate her good qualities. In a crisis, she may become severely depressed.
Symptoms
* Overreacts to criticism, becoming angry or humiliated * Uses others to reach goals * Exaggerates own importance * Entertains unrealistic fantasies about achievements, power, beauty, intelligence or romance * Has unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment * Needs constant attention and positive reinforcement from others * Is easily jealous
Causes
The exact cause is not known. Although onset of the disorder is usually early adulthood, it is likely to be in response to childhood experiences. A psychological evaluation may be performed.
Treatment
Psychotherapy may be useful in getting the individual with narcissistic personality disorder to relate to others in a less maladaptive manner. The following guidelines may help therapists working with these patients, especially those who are also AOD-dependant.
Engagement
Therapists can actually use the narcissistic features of their patients to engage and assess them. To avoid angering the patient, it's important to work with, rather than belittle, the narcissistic ego. A therapist should, for example, address a patient's heightened self-importance and desire for control by saying such things as "Because you are obviously such an intelligent and sensitive person, I'm sure that, working together, we can get you past your current difficulties."
Narcissistic personality traits can also be used to provide motivation for therapy. The patient may be induced to change negative behaviors: a better appearance, improved career prospects, or romantic and sexual conquests can been viewed as a reward for recovery.
Therapists will need to address thinking errors—which may reflect inflated self-esteem ("I'm the star of the office") or hypersensitivity ("My coworkers are trying to get me fired")—that interfere with the patient's ability to work.
While empathizing with the patient, the therapist should offer reality testing. If a patient complains that, "things are really going wrong" or "everyone is against me," the therapist might sympathize, but tactfully point out the reality of the situation and how it could be improved by behavior changes the patient could make.
Crisis stabilization
In a crisis situation, the therapist should assess the patient's defenses, and to put them to therapeutic use. For example, when a patient blames his wife for "calling the police on me," the therapist can mention that the best way to avoid being arrested is to stop getting drunk and hitting her.
Patients with narcissistic personality disorder are often perfectionists. For them, the best way to approach their problems is from a "no-fault" disease perspective. This removes blame from the patient and allows her to perceive her illness as a biochemical disorder, reducing the sense of failure that can make treatment more difficult.
A patient with narcissistic personality disorder tends to become depressed when his feelings are badly hurt, when his defenses have let him down and when he believes his world is collapsing. When wounded, he is at the greatest risk of acting out, either against himself or others. A patient experiencing a narcissistic rage may become homicidal, particularly if he has a need to seek revenge. Because of the intensity of the narcissist's emotions, the counselor needs to deal very carefully with this anger and avoid a power struggle.
Patients believed to be suicidal should be asked to sign a safety contract. To stabilize the patient, a brief, goal-oriented hospitalization may be necessary.
Because HIV-positive patients with narcissistic personality disorder are likely to view themselves as expert lovers, therapists should establish contracts with them to practice safe sex. Otherwise, the wide-ranging sexual encounters that often accompany the narcissistic ego, puts them at high risk for sexually transmitted diseases.
Longer-Term Care Individual Counseling
Ongoing therapy is needed to manage not only the self-aggrandizement, hypersensitivity, and need for control and attention found in narcissistic patients, but also their anger and depression. Individual and group treatments for patients with antisocial personality disorder, including 12-step programs, are often helpful for patients with narcissistic personality disorder. In fact, therapists may want to approach an individual with narcissistic personality disorder as a hypersensitive version of an antisocial personality disorder patient.
Group Therapy
Group therapy may be helpful for patients with narcissistic personality disorder, but the therapist should, tactfully but firmly, place limits on their speaking time so that they cannot control the discussion or focus all the attention on themselves. Explaining that members of the group need to share the time, therapists may want to make a contract with patients with narcissistic personality disorder before each session to encourage pro-social behaviors. Some of these behaviors include:
* Limiting speaking time * Not interrupting other speakers * Respecting the feelings of others * Responding to other group members * Listening objectively to responses and feedback from others
It is important to continue to use the patient's behavior traits rather than to attack the narcissistic ego. It's best to be empathic while confronting the narcissist: "I can see that you are hurt to hear that not everyone in the group believes you."
Continuum of Care
For patients with narcissistic personality disorder, the least restrictive treatment environment is preferable. It permits patients to feel that they are in control. These patients are normally moved quickly from inpatient to outpatient levels of care. If they do not like the treatment, they will stop participating. Thus, it is critical not to over-pathologize the patient's disorder with constant criticism. However, acute hospitalization for psychiatric emergencies (such as homicidal or suicidal plans) may be necessary.
Narcissistic patients generally enjoy the attention they receive through involvement in outpatient treatment. Long-term outpatient involvement is critical to maintain a narcissistic patient's pro-social behavior and sobriety. Therapists who strive to build narcissistic patients' strengths and who pay close attention to them in therapy will find them active participants in the recovery process. In addition to their personality disorder and AOD use disorder, some patients may engage in compulsive sexual or spending behaviors that should be addressed therapeutically.
Pukul 12.30 WIB,Sepulang sekolah. Gw pulang ke rumah dengan pikiran suntuk,ga sabar lagi buat ngidupin komputer gw n buka blog gw. Sesampainya di rumah,gw liat pintu rumah gw udah terbuka,trus gw liat adek gw Nana lagi duduk sendirian di ruang tamu rumah gw. Tumben nih anak ga nonton Tv,pikir gw. Biasanya kan ni anak jam-jam gw pulang sekolah lagi asik sendirian di depan Tv. Gw perhatiin rumah-rumah tetangga gw,kok pada sepi ya?. Perasaan gw mulai ga enak,jangan-jangan listrik padam lagi nih?? Gw tanya ke Nana… “Na,lampunya mati lagi ya??” Nana Cuma mengangguk,dan dugaan gw benar,listriknya padam lagi. Pupuslah harapan gw buat bersenang-senang di dunia maya.
3 jam kemudian,listrik belum juga menunjukkan tanda-tanda kehidupannya. Gw Cuma bisa nunggu sambil melamun. Akhirnya gw mutusin buat pergi main sama si Ijo,salah seorang sahabat gw.
“Halo?ada paan dhee?”terdengar suara si Ijo yang udah familiar bgt di telinga gw. Gw pun megutarakan maksud mulia gw buat ngajak maen.dan dia minta gw buat jemput dia di rumahnya.
Sesampainya gw dirumah ijo,ternyata disana ga mati lampu. Gw sedikit senang,berarti warnet yg ada disana bisa dipakai. Gw lalu ngajak Ijo buat ke warnet,dan Ijo pun setuju.
Tapi namanya lagi sial,baru login beberapa menit,listrik di warnetnya ikut-ikutan padam. Gw Cuma bisa mengupat dalam hati,soalnya kalo gw ucapin,bisa-bisa kepala gw misah dari badan dilibas ama yang punya warnet.
Gara-gara mati lampu,memori gw flashback ke masa gw masih anak-anak. Dimana gw selalu ngamuk-ngamuk kalo ada pemadaman listrik. Gw selalu ngamuk karena biasanya,kalo ada pemadaman listrik bergilir,daerah sekitar rumah gw selalu dapat jatah jam 7 sampai jam 9. Secara gw lagi ketagihan nonton sinetron yang waktu itu lagi marak sinetron tuyul-tuyulan,jelas aja gw ngamuk ga bisa nonton. Yang sering bikin gw ketawa adalah kata-kata yang selalu gw ucapin kalo listriknya ga kunjung nyala. “Liat aja ntar tuh PLN,klo ga idupin juga,aku bom aja PLNnya,biar hancur.” Kayaknya gw udah bakat jadi Terorist sejak kecil,tapi untunglah niat mulia itu ga pernah terjadi. Soalnya,gw baru sadar,kalo gw dulu nge-Bom PLN sampai hancur,gw ga bakal bisa nonton Tv lagi,ga bakal bisa main komputer,n bakal tidur gelap-gelapan terus. Gw kan paling takut ama yang namanya gelap.
Walaupun gitu,tetep aja gw bete ama yang namanya PLN,gw bingung,kenapa di negara kita yang kaya akan berbagai sumber daya yang bisa dimanfaatkan buat dijadiin tenaga pembangkit listrik ini,masih aja tetap ada pemadaman listrik. Guru bahasa jepang di sekolah gw pernah bilang,di Jepang itu,ga ada yang bisa dimanfaatin buat sumber listrik,jadi mereka bikin air terjun buatan biar bisa bikin pembangkit listrik. Dan fakta yang bikin gw kagum adalah,di Jepang itu,ga pernah ada yang namanya pemadaman listrik.kalo semapt ada pemadaman listrik,kepala PLN na bakal berenti n digantiin sama yang baru. Hehehehehe,masa sih indonesia kalah ama jepang yang pake air terjun buatan??sedangkan kita kan punya banyak air terjun yang alami??tambah lagi ada banyak hal lain yang bisa dijadiin sumber listrik,kaya danau,batu bara,dsb.
Hal lain yang paling bikin gw bete adalah,kalo mati lampunya nanggung bgt. Kalo mati lampunya kira-kira 2 jam-an,ya gw bisa aja positive thinking,nganggep kalo ada peralatan yang rusak,trus lagi diperbaiki. Tapi ini matinya ga sampai semenit,apa lagi kalo lagi maen game di komputer trus udah jauh belom sempat nge-save,taunya mendadak mati. Blom sampai semenit,lampunya nyala lagi. Gimana ga bete tuh?udah capek-capek maen,ga sempat save,blom semenit,taunya udah nyala lagi. Merusak kesenangan gw aja nih PLN. Klo sering-sering kan komputer gw bisa rusak??
PLN juga pernah bikin keluarga gw sebel bgt. Bukan Cuma keluarga gw,tapi sekota Padang.
Semua bermula ketika gempa yang terjadi di awal bulan ramadhan. Begitu gempa mengguncang kota Padang,listrik padam. Ternyata sampai sore,listrik ga nyala juga. Gimana mo liat berita tentang gempa nih gw?? Gimana gw bisa tau tuh gempa potensi tsunami ato ga?? Gimana kalo ternyata tuh gempa bikin tsunami?? klo tuh gempa bikin tsunami ya gw cuma bisa bilang... "say good bye to my family...."
Kalo udah kaya gitu gw Cuma pengen bilang makasih aja ama PLN. Sebagai tanda terima kasihnya,gw bakal ngirim sebuah bingkisan ke PLN,yang tentu saja bukan berisi bom Didalamnya akan gw masukin selembar kertas dengan pesan : “Petugas PLN yang baik,YOU’VE GOTTA BE KIDDING ME YA???
bugistotoSelasa, 26 February 2008 @ 23:08 WIB
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ini ceritanya menggelitik, mau marah, pengen ketawa juga. salut deh buat sapi, pandai nih kayaknya naik-turunkan emosi seseorang lewat tulisan. belum lagi perbandingan2 yang disodorkan, pokoknya gw rasa tulisan ini brilian, dan seru!!! wahh, hebat lo sapi...keren bro!!
bugistotoSelasa, 26 February 2008 @ 23:11 WIB
sori gambarna kelupaan...
bisotSelasa, 26 February 2008 @ 23:11 WIB
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wkkk boleh juga neh idenya. kalo gitu lambang pln yg petir itu sekalian aja di ganti. hayo diganti gambar apa hayo?
bugistotoSelasa, 26 February 2008 @ 23:13 WIB
daeng bisot diganti sapi aja kali yah?
roseheartRabu, 27 February 2008 @ 00:28 WIB
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well noted, sapi!
elthmannRabu, 5 Maret 2008 @ 17:27 WIB
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dhee,kita sama cerita soal pln,ke blog ku dong,baca...
nandaSabtu, 29 Maret 2008 @ 12:55 WIB
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sapi.. kamu tuh yang jadi finalisnya stardut bukan ya?? kok mirip ya? ato jgn2 emang kamu.. hayo ngakuu!!
wakzz.......... salah satu blog yg gw bikinin buat seseorang dijadiin aneh2... bikin postingan nantangin blogger laen....
huhuhuhuhuhuhuhu.......
blog tsb adalah salah satu blog yg gw bikinin buat temen gw... awalnya dy bilang mo bikin ttg pokemon....
ya udah,karena gw orang baik dan murah hati... ya gw bikinin.....
taunya pas gw cek,dy nulis paan di blognya dy....
dy ngejelek2in artis2 asia..... lebih2 rain.... gw mah bodo amat dy ngejelekin si rain.... tapi,yg gw sebel dy bilang artis2 asia selaen jepang sok cakep....
ga stuju gw....... gw suka cewe korea.....
awas lo.... gw kacoin blog lu.... gw kan masi inget password na.....
tapi niat yg baik tersebut gw batalkan... coz,postingan dy diprotes sama para pecinta rain....
huahuahuahuahuahuahua........ blangsad lo......... gw bikinin blog,malah lo bikin yg aneh2..... dimusuhin kan lo??
huahuahuahuahuahuahua............
tadi siang,gw langsung interogasi dy...... knapa bikin yg begituan??
dy bilang klo dy sakit ati ma semoa fans2 artis korea yg ngeblog di blog indos....
coz,klo blogger2 itu ngepost,sekalinya online,ngeposting 4-5 biji postingan....
jadi postingan dy kegeser kebawah n ga ada yg ngasi komentar....
gw cuma bisa ngakak....
n dy bilang dy ga mao ngeblog lagi..... syok dimusuhin.....
kristi_sariSenin, 11 February 2008 @ 21:59 WIB
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ga cuman yg ttg artis korea kok. yg posting sastra jg gitu kok (ga termasuk aku yg cm sehari 1 loh) aahaha makan ya gua dl ga suka ad disini (selain gua walk out gara2 di flamming) namun krn kapcil menentukan gua harus aktif kembali demi secercah avatar.. mau gmn lagi? ahahh datengin aja blog orgm, komen. kalau hoki pasti ngikut dikunjungin balik kan?
btw aku lg suka bgt ama lagu rain (it's rain) loh meski ga suka org nya.
dan udah pernah lihat x-man? variety show korea yg kocak abis. nonton aja. kalau ga tau lihat dimana , kasih tau aku, aku ksh linknya ^^
elthmannSelasa, 12 February 2008 @ 05:02 WIB
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dhee.... ternyata tu orang temen u?... dia di sumpah abis-abis-an tuh... aku juga yang termasuk yang nyumpahin dia biar kualat malah jatuh cinta sama korean artist,hihihi...
bilangin ke dia,jangan syok and berhenti nge-vlog,mending bikin postingan minta maaf...
herdiboy3Selasa, 12 February 2008 @ 10:26 WIB
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ohh jadi itu alasannya.. ngerti deh gw.. yah resiko juga seh ngeblog, postingan kita tenggelam sama postingan bloggers laen yang sehari bisa lebih dari satu postingan.. apalagi kalo cuma nampilin gambar doang.. hehehe..
ooo.. jd die temen lo... n jd itu sebabnya dia posting bgituan...
kalo mau banyak komen kan bukan cuma dr situ aja.. bisa rajin2 ngunjungin blog irg laen jg kyk kata si kristi_sari..
n gw jg setuju ama elthmann.. mending ga usah berhenti ngeblog.. mendingan minta maaf aja.. n rajin2 deh keliling blog.. para koreanlover pasti mau maafin kok... hehehehe...
hellen_hoonRabu, 13 February 2008 @ 13:55 WIB
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sebenarnya lucu juga lho blognya...
kita bisa sharing bareng...
coz di indonesia masih jarang ada "anti fans" kayak di korea sana...
n jujur q sempet kecewa tuch ama alasan dia benci ama blogger korea..
coz menurut q alasannya kurang keren...
hiragana07Rabu, 13 February 2008 @ 21:38 WIB
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okelaaah..gue suka jepang tapi ya gak perlu kan ngehina gtu... kasian bgt ya trauma ngblog ya?? kayaknya juga salah dia ndiri deh
bugistotoJumat, 22 February 2008 @ 22:44 WIB
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masih inget yah password na', jangan diotak-atik blogna kodong, kasian tawwa!!! haloo sapi? ada apa denganmu?
hey semoa.... pha kabar?? baek?? sesuai janji gw.... gw mo ngebikin the sarap story of dewa sapi.... kali ini special edition,coz,gw ga sendiri.... coz,seperti kata gw,pengunjung ke 600 gw bakal jadi sidekick di story dodol gw.... ini jg berlaku buat pengunjung ke 700,800,900,dst.... special buat om koes jadi pemain tetap,coz udah bikinin gw layout yg keren...
keterangan warna : kuning-perkataan dewa sapi merah-perkataan dewa koes orange-perkataan dewi rena
ok,ayuk kita mulai kedodolan si dewa sapi....
terakhir,si dewa sapi nyasar di negeri pantat.... trus kehabisan pulsa buat nelponin dewa koes.... berhubung ga ada counter hape di negeri pantat.... dewa sapi naked nekat melanjutkan perjalanan... sesuai pepatah,malu bertanya,ayo kita jalan2....
dikayangan... dewa koes uring2an karna dewa sapi ga dateng2....
'kemana seeh si sapi?kok blon dateng jg yak?? y udah,gw telpon aja... '
di tempat yg tdk diketahui... hape dewa sapi geter2...
sapa yah?oh,dewa koes... -halo,ada apa dewa koes?? -dewa sapi,knapa blon nyampe kayangan jg?? ampun dewa,sayah nyasar... oh,gitu??y udah,saya kirim bantuan deh... sapa dewa? si dewi anti-nyasar,XAVERENA ok dewa koes,saya tunggu...
setelah beberapa jam..... dewi xaverena muncul.....
akhirnya si dewi muncul... lu dewa sapi?gw ditugasin ma dewa koes buat jemput,ada tugas penting katanya.... iya,gw dewa sapi,btw ,kok lu dibilang anti-nyasar seeh?? hohohoho,soalnya gw punya feeling yg kuat,biasanya gw bisa tau klo ada yg bakal koit,tapi kayaknya dewa koes salah ngartiin kemampuan gw deh,jadilah gw dibilang anti-nyasar... ya udah,ayo kita balik ke kayangan.... ayo,kita pulang....
beberapa hari kemudian... kok blon nyampe?katanya anti nyasar?? kan dah gw bilang,klo gw punya feeling buat ngerasain org koit,bukan anti-nyasar kaya si dewa koes bilang... jadi?kita nyasar dunk... dengan berat hati,saya katakan..ya jkgsdhasgdhjsgdyuteahsgdja... trus cara pulang gimana??
meneketehe...
rena + sapi : TIDAAAAAAAAAAAK!!!!
to be continued again...
ayo,rajin2lah ke blog gw,karna sang penyelamat is pengunjung ke 700....
kmrn gw bilang mo ngasi hadiah buat pengunjung yg ke 600 kan?? akhirnya yg jadi pengunjung ke 600 iz xaverena
sebenernya gw mo bedah blog na dy seperti yg dilakuin ama mbak mhimi....
tapi.... ternyata dy anak baru di blog n baru pny 13 post n 65 pengunjung....
jadi klo gw bedah ya palingan 10 baris juga dah kelar..... ga asik dunk.....
jadi plan b gw iz jadiin dy sidekick gw di story dodol of dewa sapi....
(ada yg ga tau sidekick?itu sama ama robinnya batman..)
tapi tetep tuh story dodol bakal gw post tgl 1.... soalnya kan gw dah bilang spidi gw dah limit..... ni aja gw post di waRnet.... n udah maleem.... klo gw bikin si dewa sapi disini bakal susah.... bisa pulang jam 10 gw.....
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